He got in contact with his sister who lives here, so with the intention she tells me what hem messages: He claims he got no reply from me so he will cancel the trip to England.
I heard that after midnight, nevertheless I gave him the satisfaction of knowing he stressed me, and called him on the phone... answering machine. So spoke in a message.
Then called his workphone and left a message there that he's got a message on his normal phone.
Posted on the veteransgroup (he can access) that I got a message from him and that he claimed that he got no reply from me, but that we all tried to reach him. That he threatened to cancel the trip.
So they know something is going on.
Asked the family to inform him the contact problem is on his side, using mail, app and phone.
They did.
So now it's up to him.
When he has cancelled I'll book the flixbus. Not very comfortable, but it'll bring me to London.
I will arrive towards 19.00 hours, so have to take the bus to Andover as soon as possible and hope to find a place to sleep there. If necessary somewhere on the couch.
The whole issue brought something else to light.
He said he had the wheelchair at home since his accident, but he has told his youngest brother he bought it when I needed one for 50 euro, (no wonder it hardly worked..), told another one he bought it for 60, and yet another one for 75. LOL!
If he had told me that I would have given him the money. (Guess I would give the 50..LOL!)
Asperger Syndrome is a pain !!!
He is filling in what he has forgotten and in that way he gets in trouble. Especially when he starts blaming me.
The guy who called for protestsongs wants to use my poem in his book.
I asked for the paperwork and he doesn't know what is legally involved at all.
"Other people gave permission by mail".
He doesn't know that's not enough. They can claim part of what he earns from the book at any time.
I saw he participated in assembling books a few times before, but never as the main editor.
So he thinks it's just getting texts from other people and putting them in the wished order. And earn money.
Problem is that when I want to publish an editor won't accept my poem because it has already been published...
I asked for the paperwork and he doesn't know what is legally involved at all.
"Other people gave permission by mail".
He doesn't know that's not enough. They can claim part of what he earns from the book at any time.
I saw he participated in assembling books a few times before, but never as the main editor.
So he thinks it's just getting texts from other people and putting them in the wished order. And earn money.
Problem is that when I want to publish an editor won't accept my poem because it has already been published...
My glucose (diabetes) is all over the place because of the stress.
Well, the result of taking action against that is a pruned hedge in the front garden.
The neighbours did just a bit an left the rest.
Well, the result of taking action against that is a pruned hedge in the front garden.
The neighbours did just a bit an left the rest.
Well, son1 finally got in contact.
Not with me, but with the daughter who lives here.
Not in a pleasant way: saying he has a working life etc etc etc, giving the idea he has been working today.
His office is closed. So I assume he has been at the Sail event in Amsterdam.
He claimes I have everything written down.
That is not true.
I wrote down the first plan.. leaving wednesday evening alone to Brussels... Sleeping there in a posh hotel and then leaving horribly early in the morning to catch the first train.
After that he came with the plan of going 3 tot 10 september, which was fine with me.
Moved the date of the 10th to the 8th because of railway maintenance here.
He would send me the schedule or visit to give it to me. Seemed to be perfect at the time.
Now he made my daughter think I need to leave wednesday after all.
Which will cause a huge hotelbill, as I have to pay for a room of two without him being there most of the time.
He said he would call me this evening....if he wouldn't fall asleep.
It's 22.45, so I don't expect his call anymore.
Not with me, but with the daughter who lives here.
Not in a pleasant way: saying he has a working life etc etc etc, giving the idea he has been working today.
His office is closed. So I assume he has been at the Sail event in Amsterdam.
He claimes I have everything written down.
That is not true.
I wrote down the first plan.. leaving wednesday evening alone to Brussels... Sleeping there in a posh hotel and then leaving horribly early in the morning to catch the first train.
After that he came with the plan of going 3 tot 10 september, which was fine with me.
Moved the date of the 10th to the 8th because of railway maintenance here.
He would send me the schedule or visit to give it to me. Seemed to be perfect at the time.
Now he made my daughter think I need to leave wednesday after all.
Which will cause a huge hotelbill, as I have to pay for a room of two without him being there most of the time.
He said he would call me this evening....if he wouldn't fall asleep.
It's 22.45, so I don't expect his call anymore.
The humming of the heatpump has started again.
Luckily I enjoyed the absence of the sound/tremble all afternoon!
Well, he called...
It was not true he changed the departure day... (Should I record his phonecalls?)
It was not true we had to return two days earlier because of maintenance... they had bumped me from the train. I can't believe that...so I will ask Eurostar if that is true.
He lied about bringing the large tent to England in july. He has to take it with him.
He is not in Belgium at all. He gave that as a reason for me having to travel alone to Brussels.
He still has to work and doesn't know if he can leave in time!!!
In fact he wants to leave early in the morning, but he doesn't know he can do that so I will hear that tuesday..maybe in the evening. I willalso hear where I have to go.. to the central station or one of the others.
Wo leaving this wednesday...with a small suitcase, because we fly back.
So I will be away for almost a fortnight with a tiny ryanair suitcase. Half of it filled with my medical stuff.
OMG...
That will be a huge hotelbill!!!
But I finally know when we are leaving...
And I will tell my friends I won't communicate the campdates with son1 anymore, as I will come at my own dates and on my own terms.
Left: the wheelchair.
After all the lies I heard..about his collegues helping him to get it from his shed as it had moved behind his stuff since he had used it after his leg surgery...
Pfff.. I just confronted him he told his siblings he had bought it himself... He said he did and he had told me. (Oh no!) . I said that he should have said so because I would have paid it back. I paid him for the chair, 50, and getting it here, 10, so 60.
I will put the thing away in the shed tomorrow morning.
We will sell it and if we can't sell it I'll contact the group who brings medical supplies to Ukraine. If they don't want it I'll put it in the front garden with a plant on top. I bet someone will steal it for a joyride...
What a day!!!
It was not true he changed the departure day... (Should I record his phonecalls?)
It was not true we had to return two days earlier because of maintenance... they had bumped me from the train. I can't believe that...so I will ask Eurostar if that is true.
He lied about bringing the large tent to England in july. He has to take it with him.
He is not in Belgium at all. He gave that as a reason for me having to travel alone to Brussels.
He still has to work and doesn't know if he can leave in time!!!
In fact he wants to leave early in the morning, but he doesn't know he can do that so I will hear that tuesday..maybe in the evening. I willalso hear where I have to go.. to the central station or one of the others.
Wo leaving this wednesday...with a small suitcase, because we fly back.
So I will be away for almost a fortnight with a tiny ryanair suitcase. Half of it filled with my medical stuff.
OMG...
That will be a huge hotelbill!!!
But I finally know when we are leaving...
And I will tell my friends I won't communicate the campdates with son1 anymore, as I will come at my own dates and on my own terms.
Left: the wheelchair.
After all the lies I heard..about his collegues helping him to get it from his shed as it had moved behind his stuff since he had used it after his leg surgery...
Pfff.. I just confronted him he told his siblings he had bought it himself... He said he did and he had told me. (Oh no!) . I said that he should have said so because I would have paid it back. I paid him for the chair, 50, and getting it here, 10, so 60.
I will put the thing away in the shed tomorrow morning.
We will sell it and if we can't sell it I'll contact the group who brings medical supplies to Ukraine. If they don't want it I'll put it in the front garden with a plant on top. I bet someone will steal it for a joyride...
What a day!!!
Whew! That's a lot of stuff going on. I don't know how you keep up with it all! I just hope your trip will all work out exactly as it should, and that you will have a wonderful time without a lot of glitches and issues to deal with. After reading all of this back and forth stuff, I think you definitely need a vacation! Take care my friend. Enjoy yourself.
ReplyDeleteI keep upbecause Iknow it will blow over, and because I know it's his Asperger. It's an episode and eventually I'llfind out what causes is. Most of the time it's stress. Maybe because I now would find out he didn't bring the tent, while he said he had brought it to england already.
DeleteI don't like the fact that he booked such a long stay without consulting me first, but when I am there I will enjoy spending time with my friends, enjoy the rest, and hopefully the weather is good enough to spend sometime in thevillage, reading on one of the benches near the water. I am sooo tired!!